"When you are starting your life over, with a new sense of self, who you once were is going to challenge you. Who you once were is going to dangle old carrots, old wounds and issues, in front of your face. When that happens, you will be tempted to revert to old feelings, old patterns of thought, and old patterns of behavior. When, however, you have made up your mind that the old you is dead and buried, when you have embraced a certain level of clarity about who you are and are not, as well as who you are choosing to be, you have a different response. You recognise that the new you has a different character, a different posture, a different presence that the old you had....The new you is the queen, ready to take the throne of your life and rule your inner and outer kingdom with dominion, power and authority." - Iyanla Vanzant
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I see a truly phenomenal woman in Iyanla Vanzant. Iyanla lost her mother at the tender age of two, was physically and sexually abused, and like every abuse victim, she looked for love in the wrong places, in an effort to quench her desire to feel valued. This led her to teenage pregnancy and by the age of 21, she had three children. As if life had not handed enough to her, almost as if to mock her, it decided to throw in an abusive husband of 9 years, who instead of love, gave her "several black eyes, three fractured ribs, a broken jaw, a displaced uterus, and something far worse: the death of my personhood."
In her adult life, Iyanla faced bankruptcy, her marriage collapsed after 40 years, and she had to watch her beloved child succumb to cancer.
Despite all that, she is now one of the world's most successful women, overflowing with so much love for self and others. Above all, she is at ultimate peace, embracing God's Spirit within her; a true epitome of a phoenix risen from the ashes.
1) Love yourself. Only then will you never tolerate anybody, including yourself, to tell you or give you what they think you do or don't deserve.
2) You ARE enough. Anyone who thinks otherwise...sorry, I ain't sorry.
3) By God's grace, even the shattered can be made whole.
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